Certain signs or changes in attitude within the couple can evoke a detachment, or a feeling of loneliness. A marriage coach reveals three rather feminine signs, which show that your wife feels alone and unsupported. And that it is time to act quickly to save your relationship.
One of the most common mistakes couples make is taking each other for granted and not making any more effort. However, just because you're a couple, and married, doesn't mean you can't feel neglected. This loneliness usually comes from a lack of connection, communication, or commitment from your partner. But to solve the problem, you have to be attentive and notice it. In Yourtango magazine, marriage coach Grant Robe describes three telltale signs of women who feel lonely in their relationship that husbands should be more aware of.
She doesn't share her feelings with you anymore
If there is one thing that women do more than men, it is talk about their daily lives, their feelings. They generally share work anecdotes, the difficulties of the day, even their meals, or their pleasant discoveries. But for the coach, a woman who does this, and who suddenly stops talking about her feelings with her partner is a woman who no longer feels as safe as before.
"You've created a space of emotional insecurity at home, and she can't open up on that level," the coach explains, " or she feels like you're not listening to what she's saying so she'd rather not say it anymore."
Be careful, then, because a breakdown in communication is often the cause of the collapse of a relationship. " We all have difficult days when we don't want to listen, but we must always give our partner the space to say what they think and allow them to feel safe enough to do so," continues the coach.
She doesn't "nag" you to do things anymore
The sign may seem quite cliché, but it is true in many couples: overwhelmed by the mental load , women are often the ones who repeatedly ask their partner for a specific task. Thinking about picking up the children, making an appointment at the garage, doing a particular errand…. However, a woman who once again stops asking for these things is not a good sign as these gentlemen might hope.
"It's a sign of emotional withdrawal. She feels completely alone and abandoned in the relationship, and she's probably planning her exit," says Grant Robe.
If you felt harassed (when it was just normal requests) and she no longer asks you for anything, see this as a "major" red flag in your marriage.
She makes a complete change in her behavior
In itself, if a woman makes a drastic (and negative) change in her behavior, there is reason to believe that she no longer feels good or supported within the couple. A change that can impact several spheres. For example:
She used to be very talkative, but now she is silent.
She often tried new things together which she doesn't do at all anymore.
She did everything for the family, and now she takes care of herself and the children, leaving you to your own devices.
"Whatever she did before, if she doesn't do it now, it's her way of saying, 'I know you're not here to save me. I know you're not here to protect me, so I'm going to take care of myself,'" the expert warns.
An alarm signal that asks you to react
Do you recognize any of these signs? The marriage coach reminds us that it is not always too late to make things right... You still have to act quickly! Simply talking to her is a crucial first step. " Acknowledge her loneliness and promise her that you will make an effort to make her feel safe if you want your marriage to work." Promises, however, must be followed by actions. Then it will always be possible to open the debate, take stock of your expectations, or even consult a therapist, before making a decision.